“The world will be saved by the western woman” The Dalai Lama
As published in Meaningfulmommag.com
By Elly Molina
In 2009, standing at the Vancouver Peace Summit, the Dalai Lama s aid, “ The world will be saved by the western woman. For this to happen, let’s quicken the tempo of educating and encouraging our kids to pursue greater leadership roles and practice conversations with our kids that will teach them to support and empower each other. Wouldn’t it be amazing if our young men began supporting their female friends to seek employment in traditionally male dominated arenas. By implementing new thoughts, new ideas, and new conversations we can leave our forefathers conversations behind and generate new conversations with our children.
Ask a female tweenie what their dream career is and you’ll most likely hear they want to be the next Ariana Grande, Rihanna, Taylor Swift, Beyonce, or Adele. According to the 2010 Population Census, there were 1,887,655 females under the age of 17 living in the United States. Some of our young girls will grow up and follow in the footsteps of our illustrious female vocalists and artists, still a significant number of the population will have to seek employment elsewhere. Here’s where we come in as parents and educators. We get to be shape shifters of our reality through our spoken words. The world is really crystallized thought and every great invention began as a thought.
What might the future look like for our children if we help guide and shape shift them towards new and innovative ideas? Let’s take a look at the world of aviation. Right now there are fewer than 5% female pilots worldwide and fewer than 1% fly the Boeing 777. It’s not that women aren’t capable of holding these positions, it’s more that young girls are not encouraged to pursue these paths because they’re not aware something like this exists as an option for them. A friend of mine flies a Boeing 777 and she is one chique, powerful mother and aviator! She’s a role model for young women and young men alike. Imagine if we have conversations with our young men to teach them to respect women who hold these positions rather than diminish or harass them for being in a male dominated world.
It’s time to inspire our children to let their creativity thrive and inspire future innovation!
If we want to be the shape shifters, movers and shakers of our society and the future of the world, we’re going to have to upgrade our conversations with our young people. Firstly, living life from the perspective of your thought crystallizes your world, will have you become mindful and conscious of how you use language. If we can learn to use language responsibly, we can begin to teach and guide our children to do so, too.
If western women are to save the world, as the Dalai Lama said, then we are going to have to begin educating our kids to see the connection between thought and language. We will have to put on our visionary hats and speak to them of possibility. We will have to help encourage them to enjoy creating and not shut them down.
Back in the early days of the space race, during the 1960’s, when NASA was looking to put a man on the moon, the average age of a NASA scientist was 28. The median age at Google is currently 29. Statistically, our innovators are usually between the ages of 2830. Thomas Edison was 22 years old when he invented the light bulb. We’ve got to stay open to our kids’ innovations, their conversations, their thoughts. We’ve got to encourage them to begin speaking and creating from the point of generating language and innovation. Our job as mindful parents is to encourage and not shut down through language. If you really want to have more
meaningful conversations with your kids, start omitting a few words from your vocabulary. Here’s a short list and the reasons why:
1. How: When we ask how, our brains usually don’t have enough information to answer that question effectively. It can become a paralyzing word. It’s better to formulate a different question; for example, w hat would it take to…
2. Should: Whenever we use Should we are implying obligation. Sometimes, should makes others and ourselves wrong. It’s a punishing word that is easily replaced with more empowering words. You can replace should with could, choose to, etc.
3. But: Automatically negates all that has been said before. Think of this sentence. “You really are great but you should eat your peas.” That is a heavy energy! Replace this with “You really are great and you could eat your peas.” Wow, what a difference this makes, especially if you’re speaking to your child. There is choice here and the punitive tone has been removed.
If the world is really going to be saved by western women, it’s up to all of us to educate both our men and women to empower and collaborate with each other to create a world of awe, wonder, respect, excitement, and happiness.
We can do this for ourselves and our children. It begins with setting a clear intention of what we want to accomplish. Do we want mindful, meaningful, inspiring conversations with our kids? Do we want to be the shape shifters of our realities? Do we want to inspire our young girls to enter into professions previously unavailable to them? Do we want our sons to encourage and respect our daughters? Do we want our daughters to empower and respect our sons? It begins with our intentions and our mindfulness of how we use language. I encourage you to begin today with your kids, your spouses, your friends and your Self talk!
Cheers to all innovative women, innovative men, and future parents of amazing men and women!